A family dependant to me is/are people who I can rely on when it comes to more personal matters like financial in/stability, illness, emotional, mental & physical support etc.
Do I feel like I need one? Yes, I do. I think that within this life struggle is so much more advertised and "appreciated" but it's actually okay to ask for help, especially from those that surround you. Their inclusivity in your life partly relies on their reliability. Now as for do I have some dependants, I would say partially. Dependency slightly feels like burdening someone and within my family everyone would rather do things themselves to save other people the hassle. However, that only caters for the basics like food, clothes and finance, support in terms of your mental health is a lot harder to not only ask for but receive because it'll always feel half-hearted due to deep rooted cultural beliefs. So in other words, do I have someone that could provide me money within my family? Yes. Can I be vulnerable with them? No. Is that such a big deal though? In one of my previous blogs I talked about the impact quarantine had on my mental and emotional health, now of course that would've been easier to get through if I wasn't made to feel as though I HAD to bottle it up and deal with it myself, but it also taught me independence. It's cool when someone knows what you like and how to get through to you, but if you can't get through to yourself how will you survive alone? Not having a family dependant allowed me to realise my self-worth and the need to prioritise myself, just in a very cruel way. A family dependant - Miriam.
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What is a friend dependant?
For me a friend dependant is just a friend with the basic necessities of friendship. I don't ever really ask for much so I don't expect them too either. I personally don't like having too many friends as it gives people way too much leeway to talk about me or have some type of problem with me. I used to like the idea of knowing and befriending a lot of people but as time went on I became a very closed off person. I don't quite know if I think I need a friend dependant, a lot of the time friendships can be very difficult and they take a lot of work similar to relationships, I just don't think I could balance both if I had both. In one of my previous blogs I had mentioned my need to tell people to expect less of me because I was tired of striving for the stars in friendships, is it just me that thinks friendships should require minimal effort? My tendency to neglect people has definitely helped me draw this conclusion but that doesn't make it any less true. Once you're past a certain age there should be things that you no longer have to tell people because they're self-aware. However, if I was stuck in that cycle of repeating myself that friendship is simply pointless. I try to wonder what life would be like without friend dependants and in fact without friend or love dependants I know I would be a much different person to who I am currently. But is that a bad thing? I honestly think I could be so much more successful if I didn't NEED them not didn't HAVE them. A friend dependant - Miriam. |
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