I really feel like I need to introduce this topic because I promise I'm not reaching for anything that crosses my mind.
A couple days ago, well, a couple weeks ago, I was thinking about you know an old fling that I had with someone that I actually ruined. Which if you haven't realised is quite crazy because things rarely ever fail because of me, it's always the other persons fault, or maybe it's just the guys I talk to. But anyways, long story short I hit him up with the attempt of rekindling but I got closure. CLEARING THE AIR IS A SCAM. Now obviously if I knew he was going to do that I wouldn't have even gone there but that leads onto my first question, is closure really necessary? Personally I'm in between, closure give the incentive that whatever was had is officially over, otherwise you're kind of left in limbo. But I think that most people, depending on the situation, could actually go without closure. There are certain relationships or "situationships" you don't seek closure from for hope or just hope it doesn't make it worse. Here's what I was frustrated about though, the closure wasn't really closing? I don't know if it's just me but I just can't let little things go if they aren't done the way I want it to be done, so if you're ending things end it how I want it to be ended or I'll never really feel like things are over, even though you may no longer be accessible to me. Really and truly the only time I'd accept it is if we were better off without one another. As I said before, clearing the air is a scam. There is absolutely no reason to reconcile with everyone you fall out with and I've learnt that the hard way. Give people the closure they need even if that's more than what they deserve so that sleeping dogs can lie peacefully. I just don't know how to talk to new people - Miriam.
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