In society everyone thinks being toxic is almost an aesthetic, the ability to be cute and inappropriate. No one ever really looks at the realities, where you suffer for days on end and you're left with no dignity, where someone strips you of all just so that you love them, you know? You almost lose your sense of touch to the real world, you lose your sense of worth because you feel as though you love someone so much you have to forgive them for everything they've done to you. But you know, when you're in a toxic relationship you never really dwell on the red flags, you never really dwell on the bad. You always think about the good times, something you can capture in a picture or a video. Well it's quite clearly captured in Malcolm and Marie. In this film you can vividly tell what a toxic relationship entails, not to say all are the same, some may feature physical abuse rather than verbal etc. Not all toxic relationships are identical but the definition surely isn’t, cute and inappropriate. I feel like society associates being in an unhealthy relationship with as having someone who inflates your bad habits, and I do agree with that thought, just to an extent. They’re never really ordinary habits, things you could happily brush over the shoulder. For instance your partners way of simmering down is to use you as their punching bag. Inflicting pain because that’s what they’re feeling, inflicting anger because that’s how they’re feeling. Being in a toxic environment is so much worse than what people really think it is. You spiral yourself into arguments, arguments that never end, arguments that you can’t let go of because you’ve got one, last, thing, to say. It’s mad.
Delving further into the film you can tell that Malcolm almost found it therapeutic to breakdown Marie, to breakdown his partner. See how absurd that sounds? To take pleasure in deconstructing someone you supposedly love. But they smell flowers in the end solely due to the fact that they’re more attracted to one another once they disagree? That’s what happens, it builds tension, sexual tension that calls for a release. But is the argument really over? Did you finish what you had started? I feel like when you watch their twisted relationship unfold before you it’s so’s mesmerising, especially when you’ve been through something that’s be classed as toxic. It’s not necessarily that you can relate but, you can see why, or even how they’ve been blinded. That’s the most baffling thing, as to why you as the main character don’t want to face the music. I don’t really want to talk about myself too much but, I’ve never really felt like I’ve needed someone yet once you have the comfort of someone, once they know you, you don’t want to have to deal with leaving them, letting go or even starting again. Until we meet again - Miriam.
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